Have you ever had one of those moments where you realise with a crashing certainty that life is working out nothing like you thought it would? It can be pretty darn crappy eh? But this week I have been really inspired on this topic by a new book I am reading by Sally Donovan called No Matter What. It has reminded me of this phrase, slightly doctored from the original, but that I very often have running through my mind – 'When one door closes climb through the open window!'
Rather than simply
'When one door closes another one opens' suggesting you climb through
the open window means saying 'stuff this!' when things don't go to
plan and instead looking, actively looking, for what opportunities
this new situation is presenting. And that sometimes what opens up as
a result of a door slammed in your face is even better than the thing
you were seeking in the first place.
But apologies, I am
getting ahead of myself - Sally's book. Ahh, it is just wonderful!
It is one of those books that leaves a mark on you long after you
have read it. It is autobiographical and tells the story of Sally and
her husband learning that they cannot have children and deciding upon
the path of adoption. It charts the ups and downs of their journey to
parenthood as they take in two children who have lived early lives of
such neglect and tragedy that it makes you weep.
Like pretty much all of
us they had it all planned out, Of course life would give them what
everyone else seemed to acquire so easily and parenthood would occur
naturally and easily. Sally charts so well the process of grieving
and letting go of what we assume will just be in
life and trying to find that open window then the door has slammed
well and truly shut.
just find this hugely inspiring. Their journey, though not what they
would have chose, nothing short of saves these children. It gives
them a home and a future. What Sally and her husband do is
incredibly brave, incredibly generous and incredibly moving. They are
ordinary people who climb through that open window and discover that
on the other side is the fulfilment they were craving and a life
infused with meaning even if it was never what they could have
You don't have to be thinking about adoption to get a huge amount
from this book. It is simply a poignant reminder that life is only as
closed off as we make it. I'm reminded again that if a door is
closing look for the open window and climb on through it. There might
be something wonderful and unexpected on the other side.